Marrying your partner should feel like joining a family that’s just as kind and supportive as they are. But let’s face it, that’s not always how it goes.
These Redditors opened up about the chaos that came with their mothers-in-law, sharing stories that are so wild they almost sound made up. From jaw-dropping drama to petty revenge, the situations they found themselves in are truly next-level.
Keep reading to see just how messy things can get when a MIL decides to stir the pot.
#1
My MIL wanted a grandkid so bad from us, she told me I front of FIL and DH (her son) that I should just sleep with FIL because “DH comes from FIL, so they are the same.” I remember telling her that was disgusting and extremely disrespectful to both her husband and mine. I got some peace for the rest of the visit 😌.
Girrcollege,The Yuri Arcurs CollectionReport
66points
DaisyGirl 1 day ago
WTAF
47
#2
I was getting my hair done a few weeks ago and the only other patron was talking about her MIL to our hairdresser. I could see she was starting to get really upset and was getting close to tears.
I started talking about my MIL, letting her know she was not alone and we somehow ended up in this bizarre yet absolutely hilarious game of naming all the crazy shizzle our MILs have done in the past. By the end we were crying out laughing, it was so liberating!!
We closed with: I see your ’she thoughtfully gifted me postmenopausal face cream even though I am only 40’, and raise you a ’she got sued by the city for cutting off the tops (and only the very very tops) of all the pine trees in her garden – she then demanded I testify that it was my fault because DH spends all his time with me instead of him helping her clean up the needles’.
When you are to be in tears, Better it be from laughing right?
62points
greenideas 21 hours ago
This is oddly wholesome.
26
#3
She told me she was going to call the Elder Abuse hotline on me because when she popped by unannounced I apparently ‘withheld her grandchildren from her’.
Both of them were at school.
61points
Riley Quinn 1 day ago
As a New Englander who doesn’t take kindly to people “just popping by”, I wouldn’t bother answering the door. Assuming you didn’t give her a key. Then, I’d change the locks.
37
#4
When my DH and I first got married, we lived several states away from our families. My JNMIL had not seen us in months, and was there to visit. She looked at my husband and screeched “All your hair is gone!” And then she looked at me and screeched “What did you do to him?!” My gorgeous DH has been losing his hair since he was in his early 20’s, so I’m not sure what the hell she was talking about. We were both so shocked we didn’t know what to say. I couldn’t believe she thought his hair loss was my fault! I have always wished I’d had the nerve to tell her that I’d f****d him so hard, his hair fell out!!!!
61points
MichelleDonut 1 day ago
“JNMIL” stands for “Just No Mother-in-Law”. It’s a term used on the Reddit forum r/JUSTNOMIL to describe a mother-in-law who is consistently difficult, toxic, or a*****e. The “Just No” part signifies that the mother-in-law is perpetually problematic, beyond the typical “difficult in-law” scenario. — Google A.I.
80
#5
My story is dark- she told me that her husband molesting his step daughter was an accident and no different than a child being a bed wetter. It’s blameless – he went to jail, is on the registry but she opened a daycare so he could still have access to children (daycare is finally closed after making international news).
58points
Brian Droste 1 day ago
How do you accidentally m****t a child?
53
#6
She gifted me with the nightie she wore on her own honeymoon at my bridal shower. In front of all my family and friends, she gave me her 35 year old, used negligee to wear on my honeymoon with her son!!! Grossest and most inappropriate thing I had ever heard of, all wrapped up in white wrapping paper. Her son and I burned it outside later that night all the while shaking our heads at the craziness of it.
LawComprehensive2204,haritanitaReport
57points
BarBeeGirl 1 day ago
Not to one-up but at my bridal shower my future mother in law gifted me a used lime green dress, 4 sizes smaller than me,, lined in satin, complete with huge pit stains. I swear I had an out of body experience when I opened it. She admitted she had bought it at the Salvation Army as a joke and said that it was tradition to give a tacky gift to the bride to be. Funny thing is she didn’t do it to either of her 2 daughters. And no one I know has ever heard of this tradition
38
#7
Mine contacted my husband’s command when he was deployed to Afghanistan because he wasn’t calling or emailing her but he called and emailed me. Then she told them I hacked his email and deleted all her emails. She then demanded that she be added to the family readiness group emails so she could find out what was going on and they refused because my husband didn’t list her as a contact. When he finally emailed her to tell her to stop this craziness, she contacted the command again and told them I hacked into my husband’s email and sent that email to her. Haven’t had contact with her since and that was August 2011.
56points
Jumping Jellyfishes 1 day ago
Good.
31
#8
I am Asian American, my husband is white. My MiL, who insists she has not one drop of racism in her body, once told me very proudly about the time she got cutoff by an Asian man in traffic and almost called him a “g**k”, but refrained because she has an Asian daughter in law and mixed grandkids, and called him an “alien” instead.
She was really, really proud of herself.
Auroraborealus,wavebreakmedia_microReport
49points
Lady Chelsea (LadyChelseaoftheVoid) 1 day ago
guess what, grandma, you’re not ever babysitting!
43
#9
My ex MIL told me within a few weeks of our wedding that it was customary to be trained by one’s mother-in-law in order to learn how to be the perfect wife. She knows him best of course, so if I had any hope of being a good wife I should start listening to her wise words. I declined the training. Turned out he was a huge mama’s boy who didn’t even flush the toilet for himself and had to be told to brush his teeth, shower etc. He couldn’t even make toast. She wanted to train me how to be his literal servant. No thanks. 😒.
tengoqescaparpo,The Yuri Arcurs CollectionReport
49points
turk 1 day ago
If you married a man who couldn’t flush the toilet (and how would you not know this?), I have zero empathy for you.
85
#10
She tried to pull an emergency baptism when I left my twins with her to pick up SO from his Gpa’s funeral.
SO’s Jewish and I was raised Catholic but both of us are non-observant. We decided to expose the twins to both religions but to let them decide if they wanted any religion to be part of their lives. She decided to contact a priest from her congregation to force a baptism. It did not happen either due to said priest needing parental approval and/or unavailable.
45points
Riley Quinn 1 day ago
If MIL truly was a Christian she’d know Genesis 2:24 – “Therefore a man will leave his father and his mother, and will join with his wife, and the two will become one flesh.” Seems way too many Christian in-laws skipped right over this bit in their book.
34
#11
My latest is that I overheard her telling my husband to figure out what meds I need and sneak them in my food.
In case you’re wondering – she believes I need medication because HE always seems depressed when he’s talking to her.
Sufficient-mrs-maybe,freepikReport
44points
Jaya 1 day ago
This isn’t just crazy, this is criminal.
47
#12
Thought she was getting the master bedroom suite when we bought our house. Uh no. Busted my a*s to buy a house. Why the f**k would we be giving you the biggest room?
Popadicklikatictac,kues1Report
43points
DaisyGirl 1 day ago
Why the hell is she even living you both???
43
#13
Going on a family vacation and she texted me asking if I was bringing apple juice for my kids (18m and 3y at the time). I said no. And shes like “why, they don’t like it??” And I said no, they don’t drink it, we don’t offer them juice. Why?
And she replies “oh well we start our family vacations with shots of fireball. I was going to RINSE OUT mini fireball bottles and fill them with juice so they could feel included.”
Now look, my husband and I drink – we are not prudes. We have no problem having a beer or whatever in front of our kids. But my MIL wanted to basically teach my toddlers how to do shots and then got offended when I told her that’s not necessary 🙃.
40points
Jaya 1 day ago
Is this really that different from parents like mine who would give us “kid’s champaigne” (bubbly apple juice) so that we could join in the toast, at things like New Year’s?
23
#14
My ex mother in law once told me that even at $7 an hour I could feed myself and 3 children and she wasn’t helping us anymore, when her son was in the throes of a*******n, stealing every penny that I earned he could get his hands on and we were about to have no water or electricity. I couldn’t keep up the payments and still feed everyone… a lot more complicated than that, but I’d have to say it was that.
Or when my ex husbands sister came out as a lesbian she said: “She wants to be a teacher. How in the world is she gonna do that if she’s gay?”
I said: “It’s not 1948? She’ll be fine.”
39points
JB 20 hours ago
Re: the sister – from my experience working alongside teachers who are lesbian, I’d say pretty d**n well!
16
#15
She wore a see though cream colored dress to my BILs small wedding…
I was like you better not pull that s**t at my wedding..
Adventurous-spice264,EyeEmReport
37points
Pyla 1 day ago
Cue the wine spillers!
27
#16
One year I got a one of those bags they sell at supermarkets and it costs $2. That was it all I got for xmas from them. everyone else got beautiful gifts I was furious.
she drives around the town She lives in but she has no license.
Told me after I had my daughter that I was a disappointment because she wanted a grandson.
got angry when my baby started crying at church for xmas mass so I took her outside to the car , she started yelling at me in the car that I had disrupted her church service and that I was incredibly rude for staying in the car and not going back in to the service when she settled down. Im an atheist and hated going to these services, but went anyway because it’s what she wanted. Well that year was the last time I went to church. I always said no we aren’t coming in regards to me and my daughter. She hates it and complains every year.
I could write a effing novel with all the c**p my MIL has pulled.
35points
Lyoness 1 day ago
My FIL pulls this church c**p every Christmas eve. He insists “everyone who can” needs to go to church that night. We have a family member with special needs and my in-laws church isn’t wheelchair accessible so someone has to stay home with them while everyone else goes to church. One guess who that person is every year. I’m an atheist so I don’t mind missing church but it pisses me off to no end that the two of us are left behind every Christmas eve while the rest of the family is gone for hours. I’ve talked to my partner about this repeatedly and every year they promise not to leave us alone and every year their father bitches so much about how he’s ruining Christmas that he ends up going. At this point I’ve refused to spend Christmas eve at the in-laws house. If we’re going to end up alone I’d rather be at home.
21
#17
She’ll casually mention here and there that she has no retirement plan or savings. (She also doesn’t have a steady job, she re sells on eBay). She thinks it’s not big deal though because “I’ve got three wonderful kiddos who will take care of me!!!” Sorry, but no!
34points
Dread Pirate Roberts 23 hours ago
No doubt that’s why she had kids to begin with, which is hella selfish. I hope they don’t let her take advantage of them.
13
#18
Crazy, but not funny. Showed up late for our wedding (actually during the recessional), got into a fistfight with her sister in the church (my mother separated them), then at the reception went around and told everyone we hadn’t invited her. It went downhill from there.
ImportantSir2131,freepic.dillerReport
33points
Brian Droste 1 day ago
Should have kicked her out immediately after she started the fight and banned her from the reception.
25
#19
Years ago we took in my younger SIL while my MIL was going through a divorce. She showed her true colors when she realized we were actually taking care of SIL emotionally and physically, got her grades up in school and you know, CARED, because that made her look like a bad parent (I mean… Yeah she is, I’m really skimping on the worst but she’s unmedicated bipolar and a narcissist, draw the lines yourself) and was clearly a slight against her.
During all this she got a dog, and in the months after my SIL moved back in with her to a new apartment it became clear to her that she treated the dog with more respect than my SIL. Took the dog out all the time, forced my SIL to stay home from plans because she “didn’t like leaving the dog in a crate” ever, but it was fine to force social isolation on her kid.
Eventually the entire family called her out on it and she stopped some of the favoritism.
In the middle of that we found a great school opportunity for my SIL that would require her to relocate to our town again, asked SIL if she would actually put in the effort and wanted it and she broke down crying that she wanted to move back in with us. So my husband approached MIL about it and at first she was down but then the next day she left my SIL on the side of the road screaming that she was a b***h for wanting us over her and then texting my husband that since she’s the parent HER NEEDS come first. It’s been a few years since then, some things have improved, some haven’t, SIL turned out okay.
On to this week.
Her dog escaped and was missing for two days. Over those two days she put up post after post online about how the dog was her world and she loved it over anything else in her life and I mean REALLY laying it on thick. More than her kids, more than life itself
It’s so validating and frustrating when she says the quiet parts out loud about how little she actually cares about her kids. The dog came back home and she’s been spoiling it rotten but not before my SIL read all those posts and now feels like s**t.
God.
32points
Bookworm 23 hours ago
Good on OP for taking the kid in. Probably turned her entire life around.
23
#20
My mil wanted to take a “family trip’ with just her kids. We were all married for years at this time with toddlers, babies, houses and you know ‘jobs”. Yeah, no.
31points
geezeronthehill 12 hours ago
Leave the unwanted baggage behind and recapture her youth?
4
#21
Not mine now but my ex mil lost her leg because she shot up wrong (got Gangrene) and had her leg removed and had to detox off subs and xanx while at the hospital, lost her mind when she left the hospital, stole an elderly woman’s car after making her drive her everywhere all day and then got arrested. We call her the one legged bandit now even though she shot up in the other leg wrong and lost that one as well 🤣
Another good one I wrote years ago about my labor with her on this subreddit and how she made it difficult, broke into the room, and even started pressing on my belly to try and force the baby out faster, trying to smoke in the room while I was in the middle of delivery and even recorded my oldest birth and posted it on youtube, I had to take her to court to get the video removed and the photos she had of me labor deleted, she tried to argue with the judge but I had proof that she was showing strangers and putting me in dangerous situations.
31points
Extinct Animal 1 day ago
Why the fk didn’t you tell the nurses to get rid of her and get security to make her leave the hospital?
25
#22
Mines notorious for making things up to fit her narrative, regardless of how nonsensical she’s being.
Somehow we got in the topic of young grandmas (my mom and one of MILs sisters were teen moms and so became grandmas at a young age, late 30s/early 40s).
MIL apparently decided she liked the young grandma vibe and so announces that she also was a young grandma, she was only 42 when my oldest was born. I stared at her….. no… you were 52. NO. She was FOURTY TWO. She was VERY YOUNG. (Said in her typical, this is the story I’ve decided upon , I am the main character so stop ruining it, supporting character! tone of voice) I walked her through her birth year vs his, her current age vs his current age, the age DH was at his birth vs the age she was when DH was born (like, you weren’t 19 when DH was born and he wasn’t 15 when OS was born so…), DH and I didn’t even know each other when you were 42 and I was in middle school at that point, and she just would not let up. *MAYBE* she was 45, but absolutely she was NOT 52.
I just sat there laughing hysterically doing the math 16 different ways as steam poured out her ears and she just kept repeating “I don’t know what to tell you, I WAS a *VERY YOUNG* grandma!!” (ETA: no dementia just a complete lack of sense).
29points
Sarah Baker 15 hours ago
Sounds like Trump.
10
#23
She always says I don’t tell her anything about my kid’s life or schedule, even though I text her with info and pics quite a lot. Every time we see her it turns into an argument, where I produce my phone and show everyone I texted her stuff and she responded, and her insisting I’m some kind of technological wizard who can make texts that never happened appear on my phone.
Finally on Father’s Day after a very theatrical performance from her about how I gatekeep info and me showing proof she’s full of it, she admitted she deletes my texts immediately after reading because seeing my name in her phone fills her with rage (?!). She said this in front of everyone… shocked silence, eyes the size of saucers everywhere you looked. I would hope she will stop with her BS about my “information gate keeping” but nah. She loves being the center of attention. And I’m going to keep the receipts so I can discredit her every time.
29points
Multa Nocte 22 hours ago
I hate it when people engage with people like this MIL instead of shutting it down and/or cutting them off.
23
#24
When I had my second baby my inlaws came to the hospital about 3 hours after he was born. Didnt bring any gifts but MIL handed me a handwritten recipe for a dish that I could cook for my husband when I get back home. Wtf? Thanks, I guess… (Btw he wouldn’t have even liked that dish).
More_Storage6801,freepikReport
28points
Riley Quinn 1 day ago
DIL should get the name of a psychiatrist and pass it on to MIL, cuz she crazy.
17
#25
She said she wanted to get a drink with me for happy hour. Proceeded to take me to a really weird place and refused to sit on the patio even though it was perfect weather. We went in and she was actually crashing a retirement party for a former coworker that she hadn’t been invited to.
25points
GenericElder 1 day ago
Well, at least you learned it’s not JUST you she’s nasty and mean to. Bet all her acquaintances hate her too.
17
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